Six Unique Ways ADHD Coaching Fulfills Your Life with Empowerment
You want to make your life ADHD-friendly but it’s more complicated than you expected. Whether you’re a parent or adult, you decide to seek out a coach so you can better manage living with ADHD, so it doesn’t manage you.
You’ve heard that ADHD coaching helps, but what makes it so special for individuals living with ADHD?
Here are six unique ways ADHD Coaching fulfills your life with ADHD with empowerment.
ADHD Coaching Focuses on Actions
According to leading ADHD expert Russell Barkley, individuals with ADHD don’t have a skill deficit, but rather a performance deficit. He says that “ADHD is more of a problem of doing what one knows rather than knowing what to do.”
In coaching we work together on actions you can take in your natural setting, and experiment with when, where, and how optimal conditions work specifically for you and your life situation.
ADHD Coaching Enhances Self-Awareness and Self-Regulation
According to Russell Barkley, “ADHD involves deficits in self-restraint, self-awareness, self-speech, self-sensing, and imagery, self-control of emotion, self-motivation, and self-directed play for problem-solving.” (Barkley, Russell, 1997, ADHD and the Nature of Self-Control).
Rather than lacking skills or knowledge, Barkley argues that individuals with ADHD have challenges with self-regulation and executive functioning that prevent them from using their proficiencies and expertise effectively. These difficulties show up as delays in the development of self-awareness and self-regulation.
ADHD Coaching Assists You When You Feel Stuck
In the above example, you and your coach may home in on skills for breaking down the project into steps, prioritizing those steps, and getting the project done.
At the same time, it’s important to address any underlying obstacles that may also be at the root of the problem. In this example, it could also be relevant to work towards some perspective-shifting and skill-enhancing around low self-confidence, fear of failure, perfectionism, and decision-making.
Coaches are trained to build a safe, transparent space for processing uncomfortable emotions and experiences. Coaching is kept strictly confidential as is instructed by the International Coaching Federation Code of Ethics.
Emotional reflection and self-awareness in coaching can assist you to remove obstacles that may be getting in the way of living a more fulfilling life.
ADHD Coaching Helps You Set Goals
You may ultimately know what you want, for example, a meaningful and viable career, but you aren’t sure how to set manageable weekly and daily goals to realize the big picture goal.
You may feel frozen at times when it comes to setting a goal for a session. Life is chaotic, and it can be tough to zero in on a specific topic, especially when executive functioning challenges are involved. At the same time, a topic of focus centers the session, so you’re continuously moving forward.
I tell my clients not to be too concerned about their initial agenda if they are having trouble narrowing down a topic. Your coach will assist you in funneling down from a variety of ideas that are on your mind to zero in on a session topic that is most relevant to you.
Even if you come to the session with an initial topic, as the session continues, the initial agenda may diverge to another topic of focus.
ADHD Coaching Encourages You to Develop Skills and Become More Accountable
You and your coach work together to learn new skills and help you become more accountable to yourself. In the above example, you learn that setting reminders for your breaks and study periods are effective. You also learn that your best work happens when you take short, productive breaks and when you switch between working at the coffee shop and the local library.
You partner with your coach to apply your new learning, as you build your most suitable practices into other facets of your life. Using the above example, you learn from studying at the coffee shop and library that you focus best in communal, open spaces rather than alone. You apply that new learning towards building partnerships with study partners and co-workers which enhances your accountability.With increased self-awareness and mastery, you move forward with confidence, transforming your life from surviving to flourishing.
ADHD Coaching Supports with Your Unique Relationship with ADHD
It’s important to understand your unique ADHD brain. Your coach will help you understand how your executive functions direct your unique thoughts and actions.
• Focuses on Actions
• Enhances Self-Awareness and Self-Regulation
• Assists You When You Feel Stuck
• Helps You Set Goals
• Encourages You to Develop Skills and Become More Accountable
• Supports Your with Your Unique Relationship with ADHD
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Barkley, Russell, Ph.D., This is How You Treat ADHD Based on Science, 2012, Burnett Lecture.
Brown, Thomas, E., Ph.D., A New Understanding of ADHD in Children and Adults: Executive Function Impairment, First Edition, 2013, Routledge.